Sobriety can be a difficult thing for people to work toward and, if you have a loved one going through that process, it can be difficult to watch as well. What are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to help them through it?
As someone who has dealt with helping my loved ones through their sobriety journeys, I’ve noticed that there are a number of things that you need to think about in relation to the whole process. Here are some of the things that I’ve found provide a lot of support for people who are looking to get sober.
Encouragement is something that we all need sometimes, but it’s especially true when you’re at the point that you’re trying to get out of addiction. By knowing that someone believes in us, we can help people to get move forward. This is especially true with women – by hearing that we have other women on our side, we are empowered and ready to keep moving forward against the addiction that has been holding us back all of this time.
Help with Healthy Habits
Encouragement is the easy part – but when you’re walking through sobriety with anyone, you will find that helping with healthy habits that push them away from the addiction issues can be a super helpful thing to try and do. By helping with those healthy habits and providing your loved one with opportunities that can give them a leg up with creating those habits, you will find that they are really grateful and relieved that someone is helping them.
Don’t Nag Them
Nagging is one of the most irritating things to do to someone, and if you do it to someone that is trying to get sober, chances are, they will push you away because they’re tired of hearing it. Learn how to balance. Be sure to give gentle reminders and accountability – but don’t get on their case all of the time or you’ll find that it is that much more difficult for both of you to walk through this whole thing together.
Be There When They Stumble
No matter who you are helping through this journey, they are going to stumble – it’s common in addiction, because it’s just so hard to try and work through. Don’t abandon them if they stumble, however. They are going to need your support and help as they work their way out of it and you want to be sure that you’re there for them. There are exceptions to this, so be sure that you stay alert and make choices based on the situation and what is best for you and your loved one as well.
It isn’t easy, but it’s worth every minute of helping someone as they work toward sobriety. It helps them to be the fullest version of themselves and allows them to live their best life, no matter what that may look like at that point in time.